Sex has made me do some dumb things over the years. Including ending up in relationship I didn't plan, simply because I got attached when we hooked up. Not because the sex was so mind-blowing that I couldn't give up that sweet D, but because the sex tricked my brain into thinking he wasn't the most emotionally stunted jerk on the planet (he was). I call this phenomena: sex madness. It's when your logical brain gets taken over by your emotional mind after you bang it out with someone new. But why does sex create attachment like this? Even when you know better? It took two long years, but eventually the logical side of my mind won the battle — and I cut his ass loose. Still, despite knowing the relationship would never work, my heart was broken. I wondered, "How could I ever feel this way about someone else?" It was all very dramatic. But it didn't take long after getting him out of my system — literally, as it turns out— for the clear vision of hindsight to reveal how totally terrible that relationship was.
Once out from under the sexual spell, I couldn't fathom why I didn't end it immediately. At first, I beat myself up about being so dumb. But it turns out, logic has nothing to do with it — it's all about the brain chemistry.
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